Things I have learn from my past (2009-2018)
when I was 20-29 years old. Moved to a new country for study at university with less cultural knowledge and no experiences.
when I was 20-29 years old. Moved to a new country for study at university with less cultural knowledge and no experiences.
I never lived a life till now how I wanted. Now I am in the
best time of life when I do not have any need, I can do what I like and want. I
can meet with new people. I take pride for studying in a good university. I
have many good friends and I can adapt with people from different country and cultures.
Now I should not look back. Now I am in fourth gear of my life and now I should
speed up and lead my life in fifth gear with 120km speed per hour. Before I
invested my time, energy and effort to build my base. Now I have a very strong
base which most of the foreigners here lacks. I have citizenship, I know the
language, I earned enough money and contributed to my family, I have finished my
degree and now qualified for something better. So, now it is the time to
celebrate success.!! 😊 😊 What you have realized now…
1.
It’s never too late to start something new. If
you want to learn something just do it from today.
2.
Learning new skills will make you smarter than
any things else.
3.
Never think to spend money on something which
you think can make you smarter.
4.
Be with nice and smart people, people who can
help you to reach in your goal.
5.
Don’t waste time for something which is not worthy
of your attention.
6.
Give time for sports than wasting time in social
media.
7.
You should have bought some expensive mobile I
would say. or a laptop to work on when you are out.
8.
Don’t do things to make someone happy who really
doesn’t matter in your life.
9.
Take care of your hairstyle, fashion and things
that makes you feel confident.
10. Don’t
hurry. Take your time to make things good. Life is not going anywhere.
Some of my good decisions
Now you are a member of student
organizations. You are a member of debating club, you are member of badminton
group, you go to language café of uni., you learnt how to paly tennis. You know
how to dance salsa and what happens there. You no more care all those fucking
so called smart, rather you are a real smart one. You took part event form other student organizations. You mix with Finnish people and know their culture and you are trying
to improve yourself. So far everything is perfect! You know how to be confident
alone. You know how to go alone for the lunch and take food with pride and
confidence even if no one is with you. You don’t need many to feel good all the
time. Improving this thing skills are not easy. You are really a smart one who
deserves 100/100. You are not crap like others and copy things form others. You
know that the only way we improve ourselves is if you compare ourselves with
our past. In that regard, you are doing great I would say. You have improved yourself
from 50 to 90 I would say. Now you feel that, you are not bad in anything or
nor missing anything. And living your life with full satisfaction. You know, you
are a very self-motivated person can really do well if he is in his comfort
zone. You know your strength and weaknesses, you are a good player in a good
play ground and a bad player in bad playground.
Looking back and
learning from the past
Look, what you are doing now. How nice and interesting your
life is! You are doing it well because what you do nowadays, you never did them
before. You added some many nice and fun activities in your life. You were a
quite afraid person before to join any kind of party and have fun. You thought
that you do not know anyone, so it will be boring and scaring to you to go to a
new place or event where so many people who come to the event as a group. It is
bit scary for sure. But if you don’t attend to any party, then you will be
always undiscovered, and you will never have the life that you wanted. You came
to study aborted in 2009 and you have studied for bachelor’s degree for 3.5
years. But you missed almost 90% of all the fun activities in the universities.
You were such an asshole at that time. Why you were like this at that time?? Because…
1. You did not know the culture and all the happenings in the uni. when you were new.
2. You were with your won people most of the times who are not interested to this. You did not try to make new friends and know people from other cultures.
3. You thought if you go the party you will be a bad person and what is done in the party, only bad people do that.
4. You forgot that you started your studies on that year bit late. Like end of October when all the parties are over. At the beginning, there were many things and you missed those, that’s why you did not learn them. Others who came on time knew more those things. you were more stressed on many things as there were lot of struggle and financial issues when you arrived here.
5. Another pressure was that you wanted to finish your studies on time, even though you were working for full time. That’s not easy. You were so sad sometimes, looking for a job so madly. Time was hard, nothing worked well. You were not so fortunate like others. But now, even you won’t take those jobs even if they want to offer you. You are an ambitious man, who knows how to go for own dream and goal.
6. You were too much censored to everything. What these Bangladeshi folks are doing now at uni. never comes to eat in the canteen or never takes part in any extra curricular activities, you were like that.
7. In fact, most of the foreign students don’t take part in extracurricular activities. It is mostly common people who are interested to everything. So, if you think that you had something more important to do, then doing that was wise I think now.
8. It is not easy all the time to adapt with all the foreigners if you have any lacking. If you need to work, save money and maintain tight schedule, then it is better to avoid those things.
9. Now I feel like what I was doing at that time, was my right decision and what I am doing now is also my right decision, as now I have money, time and enough skills and knowledge to have all the fun. I grew up slowly but finally I am fulfilled.
10. You sacrificed lots of fun activities, but what you got in returns was more valuable than that. you are a very successful am in many things.
11. Same thing happened to your second job, after a year, you were begging for a contract, and supervisor did not want me to give that easily. Still it makes me feel like crying. I am not a person who like to beg things to others. I can remember, all the times when I cried was mostly when I had to request for something to someone.
12. Here are few points to learn, don’t take things emotionally all the time, you are too much emotional and sentimental. But I would say it is kind of virtue which will help you to go far as I believe. At least those bosses know what kind of a person you are. You always did what you said.
13. I did not take part in many things, because of bad company, shyness and weakness and I thought others were better than me, smart than me and had more time than me.
14. One big weakness and minus of mine was my bad hairstyle which always made me feel down. I should have given little more attention how to improve my hairstyle. Not cutting hair at home from friends. Or if it is bad, then you should have used a cap. Do not mind hiding your weakness if you have. Everyone does that.
15. Dressing, I don’t think I wore bad dresses. In fact, I spent more money than many others to buy many expensive clothes, but choices could be different. You should have thought it well and look at other Finns how they dress up.
16. Spend some money for fun. You earned so much money and did lot of things. The money you will spend for you will bring more joy and satisfaction at the end. Giving money to someone who is needy seems nice but spending money for won self is more important.
17. You had some bad habit, you spent money on smoking which was a pure waste. You should have saved them and spent for fun.
18. At that time, you used to earn 1300/1400 or 12000 to 15000 in a year and your monthly cost was around 300 euro and you saved in a month around 800/900 and in a year 7/8 thousands which you sent to your family which was really good from that low income. But you did great! You don’t know what You were spending so less for you and saving everything. But you did not waste money. How many years you did like this. 2011, 2012 and some months of 2013 not after that. But when you moved to another place, you spent more money on you and your car and wasted lots of money in some improper ways. But that was the only fun at that time.
19. It was really tough to do something funny in sakyla. Life in sakyla was painful and dry. I sacrificed a lot I would say. Living there only for money was right decision because of my life situation, but in other ways not right. Don’t know. You met with so many nice people because of living in that place. It was also nice learning too.
20. When you met with sunshine and others and kirsi, things stared to improve. In 2013, one month you were alone and then you took your friend there. Next year in 2014, few months you were alone again and then you took Mahin and Jahid, then everything was good. Then you moved to Rauma for better life, you were okay there, you met with Rahman vai and Milan and they were good friend, you had some activities but nothing special. And later on Hasan who also helped you to a greater extend.
